About transience
Nothing is eternal, even life.
Everything we think about death is meaningless; exception is that our death reminds us of life.
(Charles de Gaulle)
It is a theme that we do not talk likely. This toppic usually occurs only in case of loss or having a conversation about a traumatic event, which took place in the area. And yet, over the life it touches each of us. As an adult, at least quietly, we are aware that once the time comes, we will be leaving the grandparents, parents, aunts, uncles ... The thought is so painful for many people, that they prefer to suppress as to discuss this with their loved ones.
Any loss is a major traumatic event, that each individual is experiencing it differently. It is not a general knowledge of how a person will respond and react to the loss. In theory, mourning is divided into several periods that the grieving person is going through (period have different names and can be divided into four or more phases). It depends on each person how long he will stay in each of these phases.
The first period is SHOCK
Shock is what the loss of a close person first felt. After the initial shock at the sad news follows denial (there was a mistake, not really happened, avoiding anything that resembles a deceased person ...). Fleeing from the truth cannot last long, because the reality is the one that forces the opposite.
The second period is RESPONSE
When a person enters this phase, occurs aggression, anger, guilt, fear, irritation, etc., to oneself, of a deceased person or the surrounding area. This emotion is to some extent understandable, since the loss of a close mourner means frustration, which leads to aggression. Only up to a limit, when this does not affect other people.
The third period is PROCESSING
A person at this stage is aware of the loss and begins to deal with the pain of loss. This period can be very long, a person is in emotional distress, cannot find a meaning for his future lives, has no appetite or it increases, appears despair, characterized by depression.
The recent period is ADOPTION
The above-described symptoms slowly vanish, the person begins to re-livehis life, which may be slightly different due to personal changes in time of mourning. This is the time when a person faces the loss. Occasionally, shorter periods of depression may still occur. Memories of loss is still painful and can stay painful forever, but the person is able to go forward.
Loss of a parent
On the loss of the father or mother of the child, overwhelm the memories of the past, of childhood. Parents are the most important for a child, regardless of age. Even when we are talking about adults, they are still someone`s children. Loss of parental love, affection, sense of security is a big loss for the child, which may turn into fear of further life. To many people it helps if they keep some personal object of a deceased person who reminds them and keep the memory of that person. It is very useful to have conversations with loved ones, to talk about memories of the deceased person, looking at pictures, remembering stories, jokes,...