About transience
We are all born and we all die eventually.
Death does not surprise a wise person: he is always ready to travel.
(Jean de La Fontaine)
We meet several times in our lifes with the loss of a close member; family member, relative, friend, acquaintance. In addition, each of us is faced with issues related to passing. Death is (only) part of life. Facing the loss of close member can bring to many people feelings of helplessness, fear or horror.
GRIEF
Every person is responds to a loss differently. Any loss is severe trauma and can cause different reactions of sadness, crying, insomnia to restless, anger, lack of / increase of appetite. These reactions are most common. Mostly this is being improved within one year after the loss. Grief is a long process, which play an important role in providing support, mainly by talking and listening to relatives, friends, acquaintances. We need to know that the loss everyone is facing a different way and that there is no universal patterns of what is mourning and what will help people through the grieving process. Grief is also different between the sexes; it depends on the age, as children and adults grieve differently. Grief affects the human being as a whole, particularly on the concentration, memory, thinking, behavior, expression of emotions. We can get the feeling that we almost do not know these people. At the time of mourning the person is more sensitive than usual, so any additional stress might worse a situation.
As mentioned above, each individual is faced with grief differently and for different time period. In theory, there are four stages of the process of mourning which individuals are considered different. It does not have to be in the order of phases.
STAGE SHOCK - As the name suggests, this is the period immediately after the event, when we were informed of the loss. This is the stage of denial is "not true." Information provided by mourners then receives seldom remembers leaving only the outlines of such information. Time, this phase is carried out from several hours to several weeks.
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PHASE OF SHOCK - A person is told about the loss of loved one. It is often that a person denies the loss and tells himself it`s not true. A person rarely remembers informations or details when he hears the news. It can take few hours or weeks to accept that fact.
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REACTION PHASE - Dealing with the loss, the person begins to look for person in everything. There is anger at themselves and each other, often followed by depression, anxiety, aggression, feeling of guilt. It can take weeks, months, even years for some.
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DEALING PHASE - Dealing with the loss, the person begins to realize that the loved one is no longer here. There cold be a depression involved, a person may not see the future without that person, and remembers many moments spend together. This period may last for several years.
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PHASE OF NEW ORIENTATION - ACCEPTANCE - In this phase, a person becomes hi sold self again and is returning to the old ways. He finds his old interests and gets the appetite again. The person is full of new insights about themselves, because the traumatic experiences can change the perception of oneself and of mourning. A person can change priorities.