Me and my parents
The parents are the most important people in the world to the child. When we grow up, our relationship with parents is changing. From a small, obedient child you are becoming a young human with his/her own opinion, with his own will, although sometimes with greater noise than it is necessary.
Most attitudes towards the parents change in adolescence or puberty, where a young man begins to assert their will. Trying to be independent. He/she may act rebelling and defiant. He/she begins to critically judge his/her parents and not let them to interfere in his/her stuff, he/she doesn't allow to be lead. Testing the boundaries set by their parents. For all that, during this period there can be frictions and conflicts between parents and children. Of course, this is not easy even for the parents. Hardworking and obedient children are suddenly changed. They criticize, object, "do not hear", their mood is like a weather in April. They want to dress according to their own style, and the style is certainly not like the parents would like. Family trips suddenly doesn't interest them, too much time chatting with friends, they lock themselves in the bathroom, and they only demand and not obey the rules. There are many fights between parents, because they set the limits, define the rules and children can feel cramped and demand more freedom.
It is important that children try to understand their parents and be aware that parents are just people. They are trying their best. In adulthood, disputes with parents are actually normal, but it is right that both sides recognize that disputes can be resolved through talks.
What can help you young people when talking to your parents?
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You need the right time and this is certainly not when parents are rushing to work.
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Try to achieve that you will be listened and taken seriously. Let them know that this is important to you.
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You need to talk with respect and with tranquil tone.
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Look at the problem with the eyes of your parents. That is how you will better understand them and it will be easier to continue the conversation.
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Be willing to compromise. Sometimes it takes a little loosening and not stubbornly insist.
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If you have done something wrong , it is also necessary to apologize and not just give excuses.
Notwithstanding the fights and misunderstandings with parents, however, they are the ones who provide you with a safe environment where you come back from your path to adulthood. You find security with them when you get into trouble. You need parents longer than you would want it. Sometimes you find that parents in many ways are right and that they actually have quite a lot of experiences. Some similarities might be found between you and them, when you ask how was their relationship with their parents like.