Me and my partner
Love and partnership relations are concepts which profoundly affects a person's life. When we do not have it, we yearn for it when we have it, we suffer because of it . Our life is so to speak, permeated with it. The definition of love, which applies to Western culture, says that love is an exclusive relationship between a man and a woman, it's a relationship from which the children are born and get their place in this relationship.
Economically active population, which is with a job, home and family responsibilities the most affected, often feel the effects of congestion in the partnership. The biggest problem that arises in the partnership is the lack of mutual communication and inability to solve conflicts.
Why there comes to a crisis?
The conflict is not surprising, considering that you start to live a life together and you came from two different worlds and bring with your own customs and your own perception of community life. Later there come the kids, loans, mortgages etc. You are walking in a common life with the belief that you are going towards happiness, and later you are faced with a lot of challenges. There is nothing like you thought it would be. He's not as good as you thought and she is not as you thought she will be.
Soon you begin to argue about small and unimportant things. Life is running and bringing with it new situations that require coordinated action, but because of the rickety personal and unbalance relationship you don't know how to cope as a couple. Slowly but surely you are losing yourself until you wake up in a marriage (partnership) crisis, which tells you that t as a couple departed you moved away from each other and you need to find a way back to each other. When it comes to the crises, unfortunately, we don't know how to handle it because of strong emotions.
What can we do to improve the relationship with a partner?
It is important that we take the time to confront the situation and find appropriate solutions. But unfortunately, the most common is that we sweep these problems under the carpet and live onwards. Do not forget that the problems are following us wherever we go, because we can't hide us from us. We have to face the problems and conflicts at an early stage because then the possibility of a successful solution is significantly higher.
Family advocates are all too important role in the life of an individual, so problems in this area can not and should not be ignored. They will strike with all its power if we want it or not. Therefore, we have to approach to solving problems or seek help before it's too late!
Big changes in a life of partner also bring the birth of a child. The arrival of a new family member touches various fields, such as habits, a division of labor, interests, leisure, sexuality, etc. But more than what changes in these areas, it is important how the man and woman feel about this. It is essential to share your feelings, your distress, frustration and everything that is awakening when learning a new role. And at that remain true to yourself and your vision. Already during pregnancy you create a common vision, which connects you more. A vision of how it will be. You can also talk about this:
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what do you expect,
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specifically, how you will behave in different situations : eg how you will take care of the child if the child will not sleep at night, who will get up etc.,
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the division of labor, which suddenly there is a lot of. Who will be cooking, washing and ironing , etc.?