Violence
Violent behavior is the need to demonstrate power.
Why do children behave violently?
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because in this way obtains the desired attention;
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because he realizes that it brings him "benefits" because others are afraid of him;
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because it gives him a sense of importance and desirability in the company;
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because ...
Violence in any form is not tolerated. If adults behave in such a way that they condemn all acts of violence, you too will know that this is not correct behavior. Children imitate their parents, so it is important that their parents set a positive example. Together we must fight against violence.
Young perpetrators of violence mainly come from families and environments where violence is a commonplace. It is possible that at home they educated them with punishment (beating, contempt, insults, ...), so for them, the only way of resolving disagreements is through violence. Also, the same their parents do.
Zero tolerance for violence must prevail everywhere. In homes, schools, and society. Each other, let's be a positive example by words and acts. Education of children begins at home, the first profanity children brings from home .
Violence in the family
The violence that takes place in the family has a major impact on the child, even if the child is not directly involved. Parents sometimes unwittingly and unintentionally pass inappropriate behavior patterns on to their child. You know the saying: "A child is a picture of the parents"? Conflicts, misunderstandings, disrespect, screaming, yelling, bumps and general violence between the parents the children internalize like patterns of behaviour – this attitudes and behaviors he/she knows, grows with it and can accept as a mean of resolving conflicts and exercising their power over others.
All too often children witness domestic violence. Even if they are in another room, they hear screaming, yelling, crying, threats, blows, ... Therefore, it is necessary to talk openly about violence. Children need to know that this is not the way to solve problems and that this should not happen to anyone else.
When the child is a victim of domestic violence, the most common forms of violence are psychological violence, physical and sexual violence, and neglect. Physical violence is when a child is beaten, it is spanked etc. Once popular educational measures, which may end up with bruises, fractures, sprains, etc. . , are not educational but as a result of physical violence. Raising children should not be through violence. Among the psychological fall scolding a child, contempt, insult, rejection, exploitation, humiliation, intimidation etc. These are all actions that significantly affect the child's self-image and self-esteem, and can be marked for life. Sexual violence against children is very hidden, as in the public this action is unacceptable. In addition to rape, it is counted even touching the child (the intimate parts) and other forms of sexual harassment (undressing at the request of a person and the display of sexual limbs etc.). As neglect are considered acts of adults, parents when they don't carry out the actions that would meet the child's emotional, intelligent and physical (physical ) needs and its development. The child is not fed properly, living in inadequate hygienic conditions, etc.
Violence in childhood affects the later development and formation of personality. Children will imitate patterns in adulthood obtained from their parents and carried forward in his family (partner, children). Therefore, it is important that every child who has been the victim of any form of violence described above, obtain professional assistance .